Sex Holds No Allure for Wife of 50 Years
Dear Abby | March 10th, 2026 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I've been married to the same man for nearly 50 years. We raised a sweet family, had successful careers and never strayed from each other. For the last 20-plus years, I've had little or no desire for sex. I understand it medically as well as emotionally, but Hubby doesn't get it at all. He thinks we should be like we were back in the '70s and '80s. I'm happy for senior couples who engage in healthy sexual relationships. I am just no longer into it and, honestly, also not interested in taking medication to enhance me. What's wrong with a man taking something to unenhance himself? I know the biblical duty God gave for procreation, hence 100-year-old men fathering children with young women. The balance has never been BALANCED. Yes, I had a hysterectomy 20 years ago. After that, I lost all interest, yet Hubby still had needs. Some are met; many are not. It is now a BIG issue. I'd like to sail peacefully through the next 10 years, if I have that long. I'd like him to find happiness, too. Is it crazy to divorce over such an age-old need for a man? -- HAPPY THIS WAY IN SOUTH CAROLINA.
DEAR HAPPY: Castrating your husband is not the answer. If you two can agree on an arrangement that will benefit both of you, it would be emotionally and financially far less disruptive than a divorce.
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