Wife Discovers Abusive Husband Is Planning To Go
Dear Abby | February 2nd, 2026 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. He is former military, suffers from PTSD, and has been verbally abusive and controlling since our wedding. I have always worked to support us, sometimes with two jobs. We have a 14-year-old son. My husband has a sister who bought a house. I picked up items for her new home and looked at his phone to double-check the address. Among the recent messages my husband had sent to her was one in which he told her he was in hell living with me and he didn't give a damn about me. He also asked his sister if he could move in with her! (She was fine with that.) He said he would figure a way out, and that there was always a way out. I am beyond devastated. I have always been supportive of him; now this. Part of me says I should be relieved. Why does it hurt so much? -- SHOCKED IN TEXAS.
DEAR SHOCKED: This hurts so much because you were caught flat-footed, without a clue that your husband is planning on leaving you. Be glad you know, because you haven't a moment to waste. Schedule an appointment with an attorney who can help you protect yourself from the financial assault that's coming. If there are assets in the marriage, find out exactly what they are and take your cues from your lawyer. I am rooting for you.
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