Husband Wants Young Family To Uproot for a New Job
Dear Abby | January 29th, 2026 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are raising our 7-month-old daughter together, and we generally get along well. I love him very much, but he has a habit that worries me. He's constantly on the lookout for a new job. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but every couple of months he says he's bored and wants to work somewhere else. These are decent-paying jobs, but they never pay much more than what he's earning now. They are also not always located in the same city or even the same state we live in. I don't oppose moving away or moving up, but I don't want to move clear across the country when the benefit won't significantly add to what we have now and the relocation creates a burden with moving expenses. Recently, my father made an offhand comment during a conversation about a business that offers good pay, benefits, etc. -- nearly the same benefits and pay my husband is receiving now. It would require that we move out of state, and I'd have to search for a new job. My husband has been at his current job less than a year, and I have been at mine less than six months. We just signed a new lease on our apartment. He wants to break the lease and move. What can I do to convince him that this is not a strategic move for our family at this time? -- STRESSED-OUT WIFE AND MOM.
DEAR STRESSED-OUT: I don't recommend breaking your lease and moving at this point because it will damage your credit. I don't know what your husband's problem is -- whether he has trouble getting along with his co-workers or attention deficit disorder -- but things won't improve until you determine the cause. Neither of you has a solid job history. In a few short years, your daughter is going to be in preschool, and you do not want to constantly disrupt her education or socialization. Stay put until a move will be more financially beneficial.
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