Watching Brother Get Mocked by Wife Isn't So Fun
Dear Abby | January 25th, 2026 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: Once a month, my wife and I play music trivia with my brother and his wife at our local pub. We invited them, thinking it would be a great way for us to get closer. (I have an older brother we are closer to.) As it turns out, my sister-in-law belittles my brother in front of us if he questions an answer someone might give (which we all do at one point or another). At first, we laughed and considered it to be playful banter, but now it has become really uncomfortable. My brother doesn't say anything back because he doesn't want to create a scene, so the night always ends on a sour note for me and my wife. Abby, we're to the point of telling my brother we no longer want them as partners on our team, but I'm not sure how to go about it. What can we say without creating a major blowup? Help, please. -- SOUR NOTE IN MICHIGAN.
DEAR SOUR NOTE: Tell your brother and sister-in-law privately, together, that if she has any criticisms to make about your brother, you would prefer that it not be in public or in front of you because it makes you uncomfortable. It is the truth. It may cause them to stop playing music trivia with you, which will solve your problem. However, if they show up and she does it again, end your participation, with no additional explanation needed.
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