Boyfriend Is in No Hurry To Make a Commitment
Dear Abby | January 9th, 2026 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship for almost two years with an incredible man who makes my heart sing. We are both in our mid-30s. I have three children. He has one whom, for lack of better words, his own parents co-parent. We are at the point in our relationship where I want to marry, move in together and do the whole family thing. He often says he wants to marry me and wants that life, but not yet. When I ask him why, he says, I wish I knew why. I wish I could snap my fingers and make it something I want to do now. His parents are amazing, but they always come before anyone else. If he had to choose right now, it would be his parents over me or any of the kids. I feel like I'm in a never-ending cycle of Is he going to? or When will he get there? What should I do? We've had long and extensive conversations, but I don't feel he is actually trying to get there. -- WANNABE WIFEY.
DEAR WANNABE WIFEY: Your boyfriend clearly likes the status quo. After two years, it's time to offer him the option of couples counseling. If he refuses and you still want to take the relationship to a higher level, you will have to recognize that nothing is likely to change and act accordingly.
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