Jealousy Alienates Last Person in Loner's Life
Dear Abby | January 2nd, 2026 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together 23 years, married for almost nine. We are in our 60s. It's the second marriage for both of us. I retired due to having to move to another state for his job. I make friends wherever I go and get involved in community activities. My husband has no friends. Seriously. ZERO! He goes to work and comes home. Over the years, he has accused me of wanting relationships with my male friends (whose wives are also my friends) and tells me I should just go on and be happy with the other man. Neither my friends nor I have ever done anything to spark his pathological jealousy. Currently, I am on a nonprofit board of directors and must communicate often with the male president. He has become the new target. Counseling is out of the question because psychiatry is my husband's specialty. Also, he seems to think he is always right about everything. He has never issued an apology as long as I've known him. I do not respond to his tirades because it's pointless, but I'm sick and tired of his behavior and thought process. I understand the why to this behavior (his heritage and environment), but that doesn't give him carte blanche to use it as an excuse. Any suggestions for moving forward? -- WEARY IN FLORIDA.
DEAR WEARY: From what you have written, your antisocial husband is a bottomless vessel of insecurity. If you haven't been able to assuage it in all these years, I doubt you ever will. Many psychotherapists use mental health professionals themselves. But unless your husband is willing to admit that perhaps he, and not you, is the problem and seeks help, nothing will change. Frankly, I am surprised your marriage has lasted this long. Is this how you want to live the rest of your life? Answering that question is the way to move forward.
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