Finances Become Source of Strain for Couple
Dear Abby | December 29th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: Should I change my financial arrangement with my husband? We have been married 18 years and have a joint checking account. He has a separate account for his side business that's just for him. I have a separate account I use for my job to renew licenses and finance my continuing education. During the last few years, he has insisted I pay my own medical bills (which had always come out of our joint account before). I have a history of thyroid cancer, and my family has a history of more serious cancers. He tells me I go to the doctor too often. I typically go for an annual physical, annual thyroid exam and to the gynecologist. We have medical insurance. I'm starting to wonder if I should just ask for my paycheck to be deposited into my own account and then transfer money over to the joint account to cover our household bills, which he also pays. I don't want to start a fight about it as he and I are quite traditional in most ways. Help! I feel like I have no money even though we both work full time. -- DIVIDING IT UP IN INDIANA.
DEAR DIVIDING: You have a valid point. It's time for you and your husband to sit down with a financial adviser and work something out that is fair to both of you. Your CPA may be able to help you or recommend someone.
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