Unwelcome Advances May Threaten Longtime Friendship
Dear Abby | December 3rd, 2025 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I'm struggling with my integrity and an important friendship. My friend Beth's husband, Jerry, came to my house to help with a construction project. After discussing the project, we sat down to visit for a bit. He was very forward with me and overly affectionate. (It's been 10 years since I've had any affection.) He also talked about how affection doesn't have to mean anything, which I believe is true -- to an extent. I told him it was inappropriate, but I didn't stop either of us when Jerry kissed me before leaving. Part of me was thrilled at being kissed again, even though I know it was wrong. I am sure that I won't allow it to happen again. I'm afraid to contact him and deliver that message directly, because there's a chance it wouldn't be a private message. I couldn't tolerate Beth knowing this happened. I treasure her friendship. I've no idea if Jerry said anything to her about what happened. I'm panicked that I may have lost a treasured friend. Advice? -- AFRAID AND WORRIED.
DEAR AFRAID: I do have some. If Jerry behaved this way with you, it is likely that he does this with other women who consult him about construction projects. I don't think it is necessary for you to inform Beth about what happened, but seriously consider using another construction company for your repairs now and in the future. Jerry appears to be a classic cheater, and you are vulnerable after a long dry spell.
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