Husband Invites Son To Be a Third Wheel on Couple's Trip
Dear Abby | November 27th, 2025 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I married 20 years ago. We have a blended family of eight kids, but it's just us now. Our kids are scattered across the country. Over all these 20 years, we have never taken a vacation just for us. We have always visited family. Now, after scrimping, saving and planning, our dream trip is finally happening. We are visiting Disneyland! Problem is, our youngest just relocated to L.A. I bought tickets, scheduled tours and reserved meals for just the two of us. But my husband has included our son in everything now -- all park visits, dinners, etc. Don't get me wrong -- I love my kids, but this was supposed to be our time. I agreed to one dinner with our son, but other than that, we are on our own. My husband wants to include him in everything because he lives close by. Now my husband says he doesn't want to go at all. He insists that our son partake in everything we do, but I want this trip to be about us. We deserve this! How do I convince him that we need this trip? -- DISAPPOINTED IN OHIO.
DEAR DISAPPOINTED: You shouldn't have to convince your husband to follow through on your dream vacation. He should have consulted you before inviting your son and telling him he will be included in everything. You wrote that you scrimped and saved for years to afford this vacation. How does he intend to pay for all those extra expenses for a third person? If your husband doesn't want an experience just for the two of you, allow me to suggest it may be time to schedule something just for yourself. You have earned it.
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