Co-Worker's Daily Drama Isn't Part of the Job
Dear Abby | November 26th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 3
DEAR ABBY: I work with a lady who has drama swirling around her constantly. There's always something wrong with work, her house, her family, herself, her pets, etc. Each problem is worse than the next. At first, I was sympathetic and let her vent. Then I realized this is a daily occurrence, and all this negativity is draining not only my patience but also my mental health. I have tried quickly moving past her work area, but she then follows me to mine. When I tried getting to work before she did, she started coming in earlier. When I tell her I need to complete an assignment, she continues to talk! I'd like to put some distance between us. But she's a nice person, and I hate to say, I really can't listen to you complain every day. Any suggestions? -- RUNNING OUT OF PATIENCE.
DEAR RUNNING: Yes, quit being such a nice person yourself and stop letting this co-worker use you as a trouble dump. The next time she approaches you, tell her that what she's doing is interfering with your work and sapping your energy, and you can no longer allow it. Say plainly that you need her to stop. If she doesn't, discuss the problem with your supervisor or HR.
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