New Hire Catches Co-Worker's Attention
Dear Abby | October 24th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I'm a man who has worked for a large company for many years. I recently became acquainted with a newly hired woman who is beautiful, smart, funny and compassionate. We talk almost daily, and I'm becoming romantically interested in her. From her behavior, she may feel similarly. I'd like to take things to the next level by inviting her to lunch. There is one major issue: I'm in my mid-50s; she's in her early 20s. I'm not sure if she's aware of the large age difference, but I'm sure she realizes I'm considerably older. If we do decide to pursue a relationship, I know there will be comments and jokes from our co-workers, which I can deal with, but is a relationship wise considering our age difference? I have never been interested in a woman this young before. She is special to me. People say age is just a number. Is it? -- OLD ROMANTIC FOOL.
DEAR OLD ROMANTIC: I am less concerned about the difference in your ages as I am the number of years you have been at your job and whether there may be an imbalance of power between yourself and the new hire. If there is a policy against fraternization in your workplace, your job or hers could be at risk. If there isn't, then it wouldn't be out of line to invite the young woman to lunch. If anything bothers her about the age difference (IF the relationship progresses), I'm sure it will come to light.
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