Loving Widow Ready To Move on From Her Loss
Dear Abby | September 22nd, 2025 | Letter 1 of 3
DEAR ABBY: I lost my husband two months ago after a long, debilitating illness. I loved him very much, and the loss was very difficult, although not unexpected. After his funeral, an old friend called me offering condolences. He had lost his wife last year after a long illness, and he understood what I had been through. We both had lost spouses after marriages that had lasted 50 years. We remain in touch and would like to start dating. On one hand, I feel I gave my husband everything I had to give while he was alive. On the other hand, I don't want to be disrespectful to him, my children and my husband's family. Is it too soon? -- READY NOW IN TEXAS.
DEAR READY: While there is no strict timetable for grieving, and you may have started processing your loss before your husband's actual death, I do think that after only two months you may be jumping the gun a bit. Take as much time as you need to get to know your old friend again. There's nothing shameful about being seen with someone who is offering condolences and emotional support. In another six to nine months, his presence will no longer shock those who love you and would like to see you happy.
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