Husband Insists Intimacy Should Occur on His Schedule
Dear Abby | September 18th, 2025 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I am frustrated with my husband. We have been together 18 years. When it gets close to my menstrual cycle, he gets into an angry panic for us to be intimate because he travels for work and is home only four nights a week. If we're not able to, he pouts, then becomes angry and distant, and peppers me for updates to determine how soon we can resume intimacy. Regardless of how I feel at my time of the month, my feelings are ignored. He claims I don't make time for him even though he's out most evenings volunteering and doesn't return until after 11 p.m. My day starts at 6:30 a.m., and I can't stay up that late and function the next day. Is it right for him to be angry with me over something my body does naturally? Is it my duty to make sure he's satisfied before my cycle comes? -- BLAMED IN CANADA.
DEAR BLAMED: You appear to be married to an ignorant bully. It is not right for your husband to be angry over something your body does naturally. Is it your duty to make sure he is satisfied, whether you are tired or concerned about an early wake-up call, even if he makes a habit of being out of the house until nearly midnight? Mmmm, I don't think so. If this is your husband's method of foreplay, he could use some lessons. This is why I strongly suggest the two of you hash this out and reach a compromise with the help of a licensed marriage and family therapist. P.S. Sex in marriage is supposed to be consensual, a loving act of communication, not submission to domination.
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