Parents Should Take a Back Seat at Couples' Nuptials
Dear Abby | August 25th, 2025 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I felt compelled to write to you after reading the plight of the parents of the bride of Ruined Wedding in New York (April 23). As someone who's worked in the hospitality field for more than 30 years, I have seen my share of bridezillas and in-laws who behave badly because they blindly believe that all of their wishes and demands should be met (at any cost) on the special day. One of the very few things I miss about the days of COVID-imposed micro-weddings was how JOYFUL couples and attendees were -- because those few who attended were the ones who truly mattered. Everyone was fully appreciative of the true nature of the occasion. Ruined's parents should feel grateful and honored that they raised a successful, independent young woman of integrity who realizes what is of primary importance -- not the gifts, the pageantry, the spending of massive amounts of money -- but celebrating this momentous occasion with those who matter most to them and in a meaningful way. Her parents should apologize for how they have handled this and be thankful if they're still welcome to attend or participate in any way. -- LYNN R. IN CALIFORNIA.
DEAR LYNN: One hundred percent of the readers who responded to the letter from Ruined Wedding in New York agree with us. Your letter put it most succinctly. Weddings belong to the bride and groom, not their parents. Things will turn out better for everyone involved if parents pay attention to what you wrote.
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