Friends' Conversations Have Become More Limited With Age
Dear Abby | August 20th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I am a 60-year-old retired woman, happily married with a positive mindset. I am very active and stay current on world events. I have noticed over the past few years that many of my friends only want to talk about themselves. I was taught that a conversation should be an opportunity for both parties to engage in talking and listening, but now it seems like when we get together for a meal, they go on and on about themselves or people I don't know. Then, at the end of the meal, they'll finally throw in a How are you? I find this extremely rude. I should be able to get a word in edgewise during a conversation. What can I do so these long-winded friends won't leave me frustrated? -- LISTENING PATIENTLY IN NEW YORK.
DEAR LISTENING: Older people who talk only about themselves may do it because their universe has shrunk, and they have little else to talk about. The next time you are in this situation, really listen to what those friends are saying. If I am right, spend less time with them and concentrate on enlarging your social circle to include folks with whom you have more in common.
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