Man Has Kept a Secret for Decades
Dear Abby | August 16th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I am a retired Marine who married my supervisor's daughter. I'll call her Zoe. He and I were good friends. Zoe and I divorced in 1997. During the marriage, I found out that he was not her real father. It was a family secret that accidentally got out. Zoe and I had a daughter, Ellie. When I discovered when she was 13 that she wasn't mine, I was furious. I eventually accepted Ellie as my own because I was the only father she had ever known, and it wouldn't change anything. Now, years later, I have remarried and raised two stepsons as my own. Ellie has three kids. Sometimes, I want to tell her the truth, and other times, I just want to leave all this alone. What should I really do? -- HISTORY REPEATS IN ALABAMA.
DEAR H.R.: You are a caring, responsible man. I will assume that you and Ellie have a warm, ongoing relationship. Your daughter deserves to know that while you have always loved her, you are not her biological father. Does anyone know who he may be? This is important information she might want to have in case there are health problems that run in bio-dad's family that could be passed down to her children.
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