Family of Dog Lovers Blinded by That Love
Dear Abby | August 14th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I am an animal person. I love all kinds, but when it comes to dogs, I don't like the smell, the mess, the fur, the jumping, the slobbering and the general mayhem of an untrained dog. My spouse's family has many dogs, big and small. They're not trained -- the family prefers them that way. They think it's cute when they jump or climb on a visitor's lap. They believe it's a way to win people over. Their dogs are allowed on the furniture, making it very smelly. They also feed them while we are at the dinner table. I understand people love their pets and treat them like family, and I wouldn't expect them to change their ways for me. But I also don't see why I should subject myself to something that disgusts me. Is there a polite way to tell them I am not comfortable eating or visiting in their home? I've learned the quickest way to pick a fight is to say I don't like dogs to a dog person. (I have a cat but would never dream of dragging her out in public or to someone's home.) My in-laws also allow smoking in their home. I am a non-smoker. I don't do bad smells well. Have you any advice? -- IN THE DOGHOUSE IN FLORIDA.
DEAR DOGHOUSE: I sure do. Be open and honest with your dog-loving in-laws. Tell them exactly what you have written to me, and (trust me on this) you won't be subjected to their hospitality again. Problem solved.
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