Pregnant Wife Questions Her Husband's Honesty
Dear Abby | July 16th, 2025 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for three years. Most of that time, it has been perfect. Six months ago, we received some amazing news: We are expecting a child! This was a miracle. We had been struggling to conceive, and I had almost given up hope that it would ever happen. My problem is, when my husband and I started dating, my husband and my brother became fast friends. At first, I was thrilled that the man I loved got along so great with my family. But ever since the news of our pregnancy, they have become almost inseparable. They text constantly, and it seems almost every weekend they are taking a hunting trip or going to the casinos. My husband says he's just trying to have some fun before the baby comes along. Am I wrong to feel he should be spending more time with me, the pregnant mother of his future child? He's a great provider and a loving husband when he is present, but I can't help but feel neglected. One evening, we were sitting on the couch watching TV and I happened to get a glimpse of his phone. I noticed he was texting my brother (as usual), but then I saw the text from my brother: Goodnight babe, with a heart emoji! I didn't mean to snoop, but I was shocked and couldn't unsee this. I immediately asked what was going on, and he very defensively told me it was an inside joke and that I shouldn't be reading his texts over his shoulder. I feel crazy for even thinking what I'm thinking, but could something be going on between my brother and my husband? I don't even know how to begin to confront this issue, and I'm afraid if I ask my husband point-blank, he will lie to my face. I feel lost and betrayed. Please help. -- CRESTFALLEN IN COLORADO.
DEAR CRESTFALLEN: As thrilled as you are about this pregnancy, your husband may be less so. In fact, he may regard the approaching arrival of his child as a door closing on having a life. There are straight men (men's men) who prefer the company of men over that of women. Because you are afraid to confront your husband about what you saw, have an in-person talk with your brother and ask him why he sent a heart emoji to your husband.
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