Widower's Annual Avowal Doesn't Sit Well With Wife
Dear Abby | July 15th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 3
DEAR ABBY: I am remarried to a widower whose first wife died 10 years ago. On the anniversary of her death, he reaches out to her siblings to announce how much he loved her. I find this unsettling. I would have thought that this was understood by all of them during their marriage. He was a devoted husband. Am I wrong in thinking this unnecessary and hurtful? -- CURRENT WIFE IN PENNSYLVANIA.
DEAR WIFE: You are entitled to your feelings, but please stop comparing your marriage to the one your husband had with his late wife. Although yours may be a happy one, it isn't identical to the one he had with her. A lesson I have learned later in life is that love doesn't end when a partner dies. Because your husband deeply loved his first wife doesn't mean there is less for you. For him, the message he sends to his former in-laws feels necessary. Please try harder not to make a problem where there isn't one. No anniversary message will bring the woman back.
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