One Family Is Altering Friend Group's Vibe
Dear Abby | July 13th, 2025 | Letter 2 of 2
DEAR ABBY: For years, my husband and I have socialized with a small group of couples, all empty nesters in our 50s and 60s. We meet at our favorite neighborhood bars for happy hour, live music, dancing and other city events, and we have a great time. Over the last year, one couple has started inviting several of their 20-something children and a grandbaby (yes, to the bars, at night) to hang out with us. It becomes loud and messy the more the kids drink. The conversations are different, and the baby cries, and it has completely changed the vibe of our get-togethers. I like this couple but not particularly their kids. Is there a tactful way to redirect our get-togethers back to just our mature group (rather than family time) without damaging friendships, or should we suck it up or bow out? -- UNPLEASANT TIME IN THE WEST.
DEAR UNPLEASANT: Poll the other members of your group about how they feel about the younger couple and the baby being with you. You may discover you are not the only ones who aren't comfortable with it. If that's the case, then someone is going to have to speak up and object. However, if you and your husband are alone in feeling the way you do, the two of you should bow out and socialize with other friends.
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