A Stressful Period Grows Even More Confusing
Dear Abby | July 13th, 2025 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: I'm 29 and in a 10-year relationship with my boyfriend, Justin. Things have been rocky since his business went under last year. For months, I have been working 10 shifts a week at two jobs to cover our bills, including a mortgage. Barely seeing each other has put a strain on our relationship. I never intended to develop feelings for another man, but I have them, and they are real. Brad and I work together and talk often. He makes me feel a way I haven't felt in years. There is innocent flirting -- nothing sexual or inappropriate. We don't communicate outside of work. In my mind, we haven't crossed any lines, except that I have developed feelings for him. I believe he feels the same about me, although neither of us has put it into words. Brad is very shy and doesn't talk to most people. He works two jobs and goes to school. I don't want to leave Justin. I love him, and we are good together. But I can't ignore what is happening inside me right now. Help, please! -- TORN IN CALIFORNIA.
DEAR TORN: Working two jobs is, to put it mildly, stressful. I can see why your relationship with Justin is strained. You are exhausted! I can also understand why you might welcome the distraction of a flirtation with Brad. However, unless you have left something out of your letter, Brad hasn't asked you out even for a coffee, let alone to leave Justin. I'm not suggesting you ignore the feelings you have been developing for Brad, but I am telling you to focus more energy on fixing what has gone wrong with your relationship with your boyfriend.
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