Longtime Friendship Entails Frequent Visits From Couple
Dear Abby | March 28th, 2024 | Letter 1 of 2
DEAR ABBY: My husband is an outdoor enthusiast and has a group of guys he goes hunting with every year. One of them has started coming out west to vacation at our house twice a year and now has followed us to our warm-weather winter home. When he stays at our place, we fix all the meals and he uses our washer, dryer and detergent for several loads of laundry each time. He's a longtime friend and brings his spouse, with whom I get along well. But as time goes on, their visits are becoming more frequent and longer in length. Always being the host and entertaining makes me anxious. My husband can't seem to understand what my issue is when I try to talk with him about it, but I feel that seeing these folks a couple times a year is more than enough to keep the friendship going. How can I get my husband to understand my side without ruining the friendship? -- HOSTED OUT.
DEAR HOSTED OUT: These people may be friends, but your hospitality is being taken advantage of. Try once more to explain to your husband that their visits are happening too often. However, if he doesn't accept it, then arrange a vacation for yourself the next time they are expected to arrive. By this I mean, pack a bag and go to a hotel. Perhaps, when your husband has to assume all the responsibility for these freeloading friends, he will see the light. I can't believe the wife would let you do all the work by yourself. How lazy and insensitive of her not to volunteer.
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